So, I know a woman from high school (she was a year behind me) that I sometimes follow on Facebook. We were not friends in high school, but I was sorta friends with her brother who was a year ahead of me. I haven't seen her since high school, many years ago, since I moved away from where I grew up. But, she is very active on social media and one of those people who is friends with everyone and hard to ignore.
She is attractive, tall, super athletic (she played sports in college), fit and thin, and glamorous. She married an athlete as well, tall and handsome and super successful guy. I mean really successful - works in media in California. They have super attractive, sporty kids. I mean really sporty, probably will play in college level type sporty. Because he works in media, they attend fun events like award shows and movie openings. She is always posting photos in their black tie outfits, posing with celebs and the like.
Bottom line, it was easy to be jealous of her.
Recently, I went to her Facebook page because she had posted a quote that I had read but wanted to reread and save for myself. I couldn't find it though, and I was poking around trying to find it (as I'm persistent in that way). In my poking around, all of sudden I realize her about section says she is divorced. What ??!!?
When the heck did that happen.... I poke around some more, because obviously I'm entitled to know this woman's business (this woman that I haven't seen since high school, this woman who is not even a friend of mine) and see that she is no longer friends with her husband (now ex-husband) and his profile also says divorced. I see that they haven't really been in photos together for a year or so.
I was really shocked because they seemed so perfect and seemed to be living the most perfect life. But, you really don't ever know what is going on in people's life.
Social media makes it easy to compare our life to someone else's life, but social media, while a great way to keep up with family, doesn't give you the whole picture or the whole store. This is true in a "keeping up with the Joneses" mentality as well. People can project wealth and riches, but just because someone has a big house or a nice car that doesn't mean they are wealthy or financially savvy.
Tuesday, June 28, 2016
Monday, June 27, 2016
10 Year Reviw - Part I (The Beginning)
Mr. Sam and I will be celebrating 10 years of marriage this fall. As a result, I'm starting to think about what we've accomplished, together, in those 10 years.
We started our financial journey together, before we got married, but January 2007 was the beginning of our effort to pay down our unsecured debt and implement a debt free life. The journey was mostly inspired by the fact that I wanted and needed a new car, but did not want a car payment. It was the summer of 2006 and my car, then a 1999, had hit expensive repair time. I had made some repairs to it and it was calling for more repairs and I was fed up. So, I was doing some internet research and I came across a Dave Ramsey article about car payments. I read some more on Dave's web site and I later checked out one of his books from my local library and read The Total Money Makeover. I read some other books as well like The Millionaire Next Door and others.
We were in the middle of getting ready for our wedding, so I did not have time to implement the plan. Instead, over the December holidays of 2006 (after the wedding and honeymoon), I reread TMM and we started working the plan. We began with Dave's baby steps which we also modified a bit as we moved forward (side note, my husband is a lapsed Catholic and I'm not religious, while Dave's books and message can be a bit preachy we just ignored those parts).
We began 2007 with a financial reckoning. First, we combined our assets and our combined net worth was $807,539. We were holding real estate valued at $1.27 million dollars (that changed dramatically the next year). Our retirement savings was at $216,184. We had the $1000 emergency fund already covered (TMM baby step one).
Second, we had a lot of debt. We had $679,520 in mortgage debt, our primary home, three rental properties and a piece of land. And, we had $50,946 in unsecured debt, $27,000 for Mr. Sam's student loans (MBA) and the rest credit card debt. So, we began 2007 with TMM baby step two, pay off all debts but the mortgage. We had added up all our debt, we had a chart showing interest rates, minimum payments and totals. I took over paying all the bills (prior to marriage I paid our joint bills and my bills, but Mr. Sam handled his own bills). So, we began working the debt snowball.
More on debt later, I also want to look at where we are, 10 years later, with careers, education, family life, savings, real estate, car habits, etc.
We started our financial journey together, before we got married, but January 2007 was the beginning of our effort to pay down our unsecured debt and implement a debt free life. The journey was mostly inspired by the fact that I wanted and needed a new car, but did not want a car payment. It was the summer of 2006 and my car, then a 1999, had hit expensive repair time. I had made some repairs to it and it was calling for more repairs and I was fed up. So, I was doing some internet research and I came across a Dave Ramsey article about car payments. I read some more on Dave's web site and I later checked out one of his books from my local library and read The Total Money Makeover. I read some other books as well like The Millionaire Next Door and others.
We were in the middle of getting ready for our wedding, so I did not have time to implement the plan. Instead, over the December holidays of 2006 (after the wedding and honeymoon), I reread TMM and we started working the plan. We began with Dave's baby steps which we also modified a bit as we moved forward (side note, my husband is a lapsed Catholic and I'm not religious, while Dave's books and message can be a bit preachy we just ignored those parts).
We began 2007 with a financial reckoning. First, we combined our assets and our combined net worth was $807,539. We were holding real estate valued at $1.27 million dollars (that changed dramatically the next year). Our retirement savings was at $216,184. We had the $1000 emergency fund already covered (TMM baby step one).
Second, we had a lot of debt. We had $679,520 in mortgage debt, our primary home, three rental properties and a piece of land. And, we had $50,946 in unsecured debt, $27,000 for Mr. Sam's student loans (MBA) and the rest credit card debt. So, we began 2007 with TMM baby step two, pay off all debts but the mortgage. We had added up all our debt, we had a chart showing interest rates, minimum payments and totals. I took over paying all the bills (prior to marriage I paid our joint bills and my bills, but Mr. Sam handled his own bills). So, we began working the debt snowball.
More on debt later, I also want to look at where we are, 10 years later, with careers, education, family life, savings, real estate, car habits, etc.
Friday, June 24, 2016
Chase Auto Wants to Be a Little B*tch
So, following up my post from the other day, I have been putting some extra funds towards paying down my nused car loan. When I bought my nused car in December 2015 I went with a short loan, two years, with a low interest rate. I also made sure there was no prepayment penalty because I knew that I might want to pay it off early.
Well, yesterday I realized that Chase Auto is not applying my payments towards principal and instead is moving my next payment date out farther in time. I sent Chase Auto a message and they reallocated all my payments from January to June 2016 to match my preference. Thanks, Chase. But, they sent me the below snotty message.
This type of crap annoys me to no end, why make things so difficult. I've told you want my preference is, you've demonstrated I can get my way by sending you a message every month or every quarter, but you won't do it automatically. My credit card is with Chase and I've previously had a savings account with them, although I closed it recently because they just took fees out of it and I had to email them every 6 months and tell them to put the fees back.
So, while I'm not a big Chase customer, I am a Chase customer. However this type of game makes me LESS likely to do business with Chase not more likely to move my accounts to them.
And, no I'm not doing automatic payments, I only do automatic payments for my mortgage. One bad experience with a gym membership years ago has taught me not to give anyone access to my account. I
Well, yesterday I realized that Chase Auto is not applying my payments towards principal and instead is moving my next payment date out farther in time. I sent Chase Auto a message and they reallocated all my payments from January to June 2016 to match my preference. Thanks, Chase. But, they sent me the below snotty message.
Please note that any payment coming from a non-Chase bill
payment service will be processed as a regular payment. If
you would like the excess payments to go towards the
principal balance, we suggest you to enroll your automatic
payments via Chase.com.I'll interpret for you, Chase Auto is saying we won't put excess payments toward principal unless you switch your payment account over to Chase Bank or unless you give us access to your accounts.
This type of crap annoys me to no end, why make things so difficult. I've told you want my preference is, you've demonstrated I can get my way by sending you a message every month or every quarter, but you won't do it automatically. My credit card is with Chase and I've previously had a savings account with them, although I closed it recently because they just took fees out of it and I had to email them every 6 months and tell them to put the fees back.
So, while I'm not a big Chase customer, I am a Chase customer. However this type of game makes me LESS likely to do business with Chase not more likely to move my accounts to them.
And, no I'm not doing automatic payments, I only do automatic payments for my mortgage. One bad experience with a gym membership years ago has taught me not to give anyone access to my account. I
Thursday, June 23, 2016
Voting by My Actions
So, even though we need to focus on savings and adding money to our 2016 IRA (in 2015 we saved nothing in our IRAs), I find myself doubling up my monthly payments for my nused car (purchased in December of 2015).
Why am I doing so? Well, we paid off Mr. Sam's 2013 truck in full as of last month. That means that I have an extra $500 a month. So, rather than using that $500 for savings I sent it off to Chase for my auto loan. I'd frankly be better off putting that $500 towards our linger credit card debt (now down to $1195).
So why do I make these choices? I much prefer killing debt than saving money. Now don't get me wrong I love saving money and watching the balances grow in our retirement accounts. But, I seem to get more satisfaction paying off debt. I also am not a fan of car loans. I'd prefer to pay cash for cars, but over the course of 2013-2015 we found ourselves buying a new truck for Mr. Sam and a nused car for me. I seem to dislike car debt more than credit car debt, etc.
Why am I doing so? Well, we paid off Mr. Sam's 2013 truck in full as of last month. That means that I have an extra $500 a month. So, rather than using that $500 for savings I sent it off to Chase for my auto loan. I'd frankly be better off putting that $500 towards our linger credit card debt (now down to $1195).
So why do I make these choices? I much prefer killing debt than saving money. Now don't get me wrong I love saving money and watching the balances grow in our retirement accounts. But, I seem to get more satisfaction paying off debt. I also am not a fan of car loans. I'd prefer to pay cash for cars, but over the course of 2013-2015 we found ourselves buying a new truck for Mr. Sam and a nused car for me. I seem to dislike car debt more than credit car debt, etc.
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